December 22, 2016
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Why guilt?

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Why is it that guilt is an accepted and normal part of a small business owner’s life? I was taking time this past week to reflect on what I would like to improve on in the coming year and the first thing that popped into my head was guilt.

If I take a day off…guilt.

If I go on vacation…guilt.

If I don’t answer a client email immediately…guilt.

Reading a book…guilt.

It seems that every time I don’t do something for the business or I do something specifically for myself, I am overwhelmed by guilt. Why is that?

I associate guilt with failure. If I am not working, I am failing. I am curious if this is a normal feeling for other business owners.

This is something I plan to delve deeper into in 2017. I am going to make it a priority to overcome guilt and embrace me time.

What do you plan to focus on in the coming year?

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I’ve always been too much: Unapologetic, ADHD fueled, dog rescuing, iced red wine drinking, 5-shot shaken espresso hyped…and as one mediocre white guy described me, “an acquired taste.” RIP to that guy.

The moment you step into your Big Deal Energy™️, people will find a reason to hate you. They’ll disagree with you. They’ll leave shitty comments. They’ll try to make you feel small.

Let them.

Their mediocre is not yours to carry, their discomfort with your confidence is a them problem. You aren’t showing up to make everyone comfortable, you’re doing it because being authentically you means something.

And when the haters roll in? Smile; they just proved your point.

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I’ve always been too much: Unapologetic, ADHD fueled, dog rescuing, iced red wine drinking, 5-shot shaken espresso hyped…and as one mediocre white guy described me, “an acquired taste.” RIP to that guy.

The moment you step into your Big Deal Energy™️, people will find a reason to hate you. They’ll disagree with you. They’ll leave shitty comments. They’ll try to make you feel small.

Let them.

Their mediocre is not yours to carry, their discomfort with your confidence is a them problem. You aren’t showing up to make everyone comfortable, you’re doing it because being authentically you means something.

And when the haters roll in? Smile; they just proved your point.

Just talking about the time I saw the @nasaartemis launch, no biggie…which I then tied into personal branding cause my Big Deal Energy™️got me in that room.

It isn’t about who you know, it’s about who knows you. Big Deal Energy Workshop: June 23.

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Just talking about the time I saw the @nasaartemis launch, no biggie…which I then tied into personal branding cause my Big Deal Energy™️got me in that room.

It isn’t about who you know, it’s about who knows you. Big Deal Energy Workshop: June 23.

A little BTS from my photo shoot with @kaylaraquelphoto @sheleadssocietymi for my May 21, 10 a.m. Big Deal Energy™️ talk.

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A little BTS from my photo shoot with @kaylaraquelphoto @sheleadssocietymi for my May 21, 10 a.m. Big Deal Energy™️ talk.

Being witness to history and seeing the @nasa Artemis II launch was pretty emotional. I’m old enough to remember the Challenger, and well…I prayed everything would go ok. Big thanks to @lockheedmartin for putting on the event and letting us all tag along.

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Being witness to history and seeing the @nasa Artemis II launch was pretty emotional. I’m old enough to remember the Challenger, and well…I prayed everything would go ok. Big thanks to @lockheedmartin for putting on the event and letting us all tag along.

Trip to Florida to sponsor @widnational Space Coast Chapter mixer at #dmc25 - please enjoy the photo of me walking through DTW. I’m basically a professional photographer.

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Trip to Florida to sponsor @widnational Space Coast Chapter mixer at #dmc25 - please enjoy the photo of me walking through DTW. I’m basically a professional photographer.

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Just a week ago, I headed up to the cabin for the first time in months. We’ve owned the cabin for almost 10 years. It’s remote. The driveway requires four-wheel-drive, and if it isn’t maintained, we can’t get to it. For as long as we’ve owned it, I’ve asked for snow plowing to be set up.

What’s a Man Gotta Do is live on bodespeaks.com and linked in my bio.

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I wrote the much-requested, much-anticipated sequel to The Gray Wave: Why Women Are Leaving.

Just a week ago, I headed up to the cabin for the first time in months. We’ve owned the cabin for almost 10 years. It’s remote. The driveway requires four-wheel-drive, and if it isn’t maintained, we can’t get to it. For as long as we’ve owned it, I’ve asked for snow plowing to be set up.

What’s a Man Gotta Do is live on bodespeaks.com and linked in my bio.

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