April 11, 2017
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Conquering failure

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Salma Hayek knows what she is talking about.

This past weekend I got up in front of an auditorium of people and talked about failure. I talked about a time in my life when I thought everything was perfect and everything was falling into place.

Then everything came crashing down – it was a shit show. I was in a really bad place and it honestly felt like life as I knew it was over.

That is the funny thing about failure, at the time you can’t see beyond it but once you are past it you can see the valuable lessons it taught you.

You are so much stronger than you think you are. Allow yourself the time to feel like shit, but just remember you will always come out on the other side of it.
It really does happen for a reason. I don’t mean in the cliche sense, but in the ‘you will be such a badass’ when it is behind you. The growth you will experience and the confidence you will gain will prove to be invaluable in future shitty situations.
You are not alone. Look around. Every single person you see has failed. Failure is not reserved for just you, all of us go through it.
Talk about it. This was not an easy one for me. Failure is embarrassing and emotional and just icky. But…others can learn from your failure.

I still look back at that time in my life and I still can’t believe where I am today in comparison. I never thought I would survive it.

Sometimes the worst brings out the best.

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It was a good week to be Frank; a reprieve for both of us. We read, sat by the fire, slept, had the sun on our faces and just breathed. #cabinlife

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It was a good week to be Frank; a reprieve for both of us. We read, sat by the fire, slept, had the sun on our faces and just breathed. #cabinlife

Rest is something I don’t allow, the guilt of not responding to that email, text, phone call, or not walking Frank, visiting Little Fox and God forbid reading a book that isn’t about business or taking time to relax on my patio…puts my nervous system in overdrive and I can’t shutdown.

My body said “hey asshole, the lack of sleep (2 hrs a night), diet of cheez-its or lack of, combined with perimenopause and constant stress means we’re shutting down your brain - say goodbye to problem-solving, forming sentences, regulating your emotions…you’re done.”

It isn’t lost on me that the exact thing I built the Woman’s Entrepreneurial Fellowship for is the exact thing I’m rejecting.

I know all of you picked up on this before me. You reached out, sent notes, prayed, offered help, gave advice and warned me what would happen. I tend to be a little dense and stubborn. Last week it hit me hard. Those damn business owners pick up on everything.

Taking time for yourself, to truly go off grid, to rest, recover, and just not be your business is not selfish; it’s the most important thing you can do for your business and your own survival.

Putting this here as a reminder to myself that I am an idiot, and you need to practice what you preach.

We bought the cabin 10 years ago for this exact reason and the last three years I have been up there only a few times. The world isn’t gonna end if you don’t respond to that email, text or call.

✌️ i’ll see you in a few, I’m going to my happy place.

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Rest is something I don’t allow, the guilt of not responding to that email, text, phone call, or not walking Frank, visiting Little Fox and God forbid reading a book that isn’t about business or taking time to relax on my patio…puts my nervous system in overdrive and I can’t shutdown.

My body said “hey asshole, the lack of sleep (2 hrs a night), diet of cheez-its or lack of, combined with perimenopause and constant stress means we’re shutting down your brain - say goodbye to problem-solving, forming sentences, regulating your emotions…you’re done.”

It isn’t lost on me that the exact thing I built the Woman’s Entrepreneurial Fellowship for is the exact thing I’m rejecting.

I know all of you picked up on this before me. You reached out, sent notes, prayed, offered help, gave advice and warned me what would happen. I tend to be a little dense and stubborn. Last week it hit me hard. Those damn business owners pick up on everything.

Taking time for yourself, to truly go off grid, to rest, recover, and just not be your business is not selfish; it’s the most important thing you can do for your business and your own survival.

Putting this here as a reminder to myself that I am an idiot, and you need to practice what you preach.

We bought the cabin 10 years ago for this exact reason and the last three years I have been up there only a few times. The world isn’t gonna end if you don’t respond to that email, text or call.

✌️ i’ll see you in a few, I’m going to my happy place.

If you don’t believe in yourself, then you’re not gonna get any further than you are. That voice in your head is a dick, stop listening to it.

@badass_women_in_business podcast is now live. Head to my story. #personalbranding #smallbusiness

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If you don’t believe in yourself, then you’re not gonna get any further than you are. That voice in your head is a dick, stop listening to it.

@badass_women_in_business podcast is now live. Head to my story. #personalbranding #smallbusiness

The @usarmy AUSA Bode Goede adventure continues. Acquired @sstellier @ebaygoede

Beautiful DC weather; matching umbrellas brought to you by @cvs

Time for tequila.

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The @usarmy AUSA Bode Goede adventure continues. Acquired @sstellier @ebaygoede

Beautiful DC weather; matching umbrellas brought to you by @cvs

Time for tequila.

I present, early morning Bode travel looks; compared to @ebaygoede. Did I roll out of bed, get to the airport 10 minutes before boarding, and then order a screwdriver? Yes. Yes, I did.

There are no rules in the airport.

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