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The bear, the misogynist, and the feminist

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Bear faces off against man

A bear, a misogynist, and a feminist walk into a bar… It sounds like the beginning of a sexist joke, but it’s a reality many women face daily. Let’s explore female rage – not to define it, but to understand its origins.

The “bear vs. man” debate has gained traction recently. Spoiler alert: women overwhelmingly choose the bear, whether in the woods, a bar, or a crowded gathering. Why? Because men are often perceived as sexist, misogynistic, and potentially violent towards women. This generalization may sting, but it reflects a harsh reality for many women.

Multiple women weigh in on why they would choose meeting a bear in the woods over a man.

Recent discussions on social media have highlighted this preference, with men’s angry responses to the hypothetical question ironically reinforcing women’s concerns.

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The sad truth is that women often feel unsafe around men, and many have experienced trauma at their hands. Consider these alarming statistics from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center:

  • One in five U.S. women has experienced completed or attempted rape.
  • 81% of women report experiencing sexual harassment or assault in their lifetime.
  • Only 25-40% of rapes and sexual assaults are reported to police.
  • Almost one in four undergraduate women experienced sexual assault or misconduct at major universities.
  • Over 90% of female rape victims were assaulted by someone they knew.

 

These numbers are likely underestimates due to underreporting. Why? Many women feel gaslighted by a predominantly male justice system. Personal experience with local law enforcement suggests that women’s reports, regardless of the crime or evidence, are often dismissed.

We’re living in a world where Margaret Atwood’s “The Handmaid’s Tale” feels less like fiction and more like a disturbing preview of potential reality. Women have had to adapt to this threatening environment:

  • Carrying keys as makeshift weapons
  • Over-communicating whereabouts and using location tracking
  • Staying vigilant in public spaces
  • Using the buddy system
  • Guarding drinks closely
  • Taking self-defense classes
  • Supporting and believing one another

 

The political climate, exemplified by figures like Donald Trump, has emboldened those who would restrict women’s rights and safety. We may see an increase in violence against women as such behavior becomes more socially acceptable.

The solution? Vote as if our lives depend on it – because they do. This isn’t about age; it’s about fundamental rights. We won’t surrender our freedoms without a fight. Join us or step aside.

WHAT THE F*CK world are we living in when The Handmaid’s Tale is no longer a fictional book but something we are watching play out in real-time in our hallowed halls of justice. Hallowed, my ass.

I’m angry, and you should be as well. Women have had to adapt, not men, the world, the justice system…but women.

  • We carry our keys between our knuckles in case we need to fight back.
  • We over-communicate our whereabouts, turn on location tracking, and share with friends.
  • We keep our heads on a swivel when walking alone, stay in well-lit areas, and don’t use headphones.
  • We go to the bathroom in groups.
  • We keep our drink in sight at all times.
  • We take self-defense classes.
  • We support one another.
  • We believe each other.

 

The rise of Donald Trump and the monsters that rise has unleashed within the Republican party (and the world) means we will only see an uptick in violence against women because it is socially acceptable to harm, rape, restrict our access to health care and regulate our reproductive systems.

Vote and vote like our lives depend on it because they do. Age is not the issue here, women’s basic fundamental rights are. We won’t be putting on the red robes and white bonnets without a fight, so either join us or get out of our way.

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