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If I had a dime for every time someone referred to me as “too much,” I’d have a pretty decent chunk of change. Like…what does that even mean?

Often-used words or phrases I’ve become intimately familiar with:

  • Scary
  • Acquired taste
  • Abrasive
  • Aggressive
  • Loud
  • A lot
  • Intimidating

 

I’d be lying if I didn’t admit these words stung at times, but as I’ve progressed in my career there is also a certain level of pride I associate with them. Being too much has helped me stand out in a room, it’s drawn people to me and it’s given me a personal brand that is all my own.

I won’t make myself smaller to make you more comfortable. Who I am, faults and all have paved my way in life – success, failure, and everything in between.

If you are also struggling, ask yourself “Am I too much, or are they just not enough?”

I’ve come to realize that labelers are often intimidated, threatened, or jealous. If you chose to be “less”, who benefits? It certainly isn’t you.

Standing out in a crowd is something to be proud of, don’t ever apologize for taking up space.

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It’s not about who you know, it’s about who knows you. When I talk Big Deal Energy™️, I remind people about the power of their network and the investment it requires to actually reap the benefits. You gotta give to get. I shared some thoughts with @fastcompany on the ROI of conference sponsorships, which only makes sense if you build connections and are visible. “The benefit and ROI need to outweigh the cost. ROI should be defined in multiple ways: brand awareness, visibility with a core customer base, or being able to share knowledge, which positions you as a thought leader. Note: Invest in personal branding workshops or education so your people know how to connect, make an impression, follow up, and nurture a lead.” If you don’t know how to work a room, give more than you get, then for the love of all that is holy, register for the Big Deal Energy™ Workshop on June 23.

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Let them.

Their mediocre is not yours to carry, their discomfort with your confidence is a them problem. You aren’t showing up to make everyone comfortable, you’re doing it because being authentically you means something.

And when the haters roll in? Smile; they just proved your point. See you on the 21st.

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The moment you step into your Big Deal Energy™️, people will find a reason to hate you. They’ll disagree with you. They’ll leave shitty comments. They’ll try to make you feel small. Let them. Their mediocre is not yours to carry, their discomfort with your confidence is a them problem. You aren’t showing up to make everyone comfortable, you’re doing it because being authentically you means something. And when the haters roll in? Smile; they just proved your point. See you on the 21st.

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We have a choice, and I say this with all the love my feral little Gen X heart can muster: we can spend our energy wishing things were different, or we can adapt and teach them.

Companies investing in integrated learning models see 24% higher profit margins and save roughly $18K per new hire in productivity ramp up.

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Small Business Survival Skills: Critical thinking, communication, conflict resolution, professionalism…when employees are missing these, it costs us a whole bunch of money. We have a choice, and I say this with all the love my feral little Gen X heart can muster: we can spend our energy wishing things were different, or we can adapt and teach them. Companies investing in integrated learning models see 24% higher profit margins and save roughly $18K per new hire in productivity ramp up. It’s survival. @8thirtyfour Skills Survival School, June 25 - https://8thirtyfour.com/skills/

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I started @8thirtyfour #19 years ago because I didn’t see many women in leadership positions; those I saw weren’t real keen to lend a helping hand. If you want something, make it happen; no one is going to hand you your dream. #smallbusiness #bigdealenergy #womenfounders #womensupportingwomen kimbode
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