August 3, 2017
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Lets stop apologizing

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As women we are programmed to be apologetic.

“Sorry i’m late.”

“Sorry this seat is taken.”

“Sorry to bother you.”

“Sorry to interrupt.”

Can we just knock it off already? Manners are one thing, but apologizing for no reason can actually hurt you. What kind of message are you sending? It sure as hell isn’t confidence.

There is a great article by Fast Company that talks about the right times to apologize and spoiler….it doesn’t include any of the below:

Sharing your point of view. If you are in a meeting and speak up, don’t apologize for it! Say what you have to say, illustrate how damn smart you are and then sit down. Do you think Bob is going to apologize for interrupting you to show how smart he is? No.
When you are short on time or long on time. If you have a presentation and it is going long, inform the group that you will wrap up in 2 minutes or however long. Also don’t be that person that drones on and on and on. I’m also going to assume your PowerPoint slides are engaging and not 15 bullet points each.
Delivering bad news. Sometimes you have to sit down with an employee, colleague or client and share or discuss a difficult issue. Apologizing will only undermine what you are about to say. Have the tough conversation and move on. Starting out with “sorry” only makes you look unsure.

There are situations that will warrant an apology, like running over your neighbors cat. However when it is work-related, think twice before offering up an apology.

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For the first time in a decade, it feels like this country can breathe. Women made history, and absolutely dominated - @keishaforga @secdebhaaland @amyactonoh @ginafortexas @annieandrewsmd @ltgovstratton @jasmine4ga Stacey Plaskett @congresswomansarahmcbride @melatkirosco and so many more. My favorite being, of course @khristiansilvisforhd84.

Let’s fix this sh*tshow

Let’s make @kamalaharris proud.

This just felt very patriotic.

This woman worked her ass off and got 60% of the vote 🔥

We’re all gonna f*ck up and make mistakes; give yourself grace and remind yourself of what you’ve done right, why you’re amazing and get on with it.

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It was a good week to be Frank; a reprieve for both of us. We read, sat by the fire, slept, had the sun on our faces and just breathed. #cabinlife

Rest is something I don’t allow, the guilt of not responding to that email, text, phone call, or not walking Frank, visiting Little Fox and God forbid reading a book that isn’t about business or taking time to relax on my patio…puts my nervous system in overdrive and I can’t shutdown.

My body said “hey asshole, the lack of sleep (2 hrs a night), diet of cheez-its or lack of, combined with perimenopause and constant stress means we’re shutting down your brain - say goodbye to problem-solving, forming sentences, regulating your emotions…you’re done.”

It isn’t lost on me that the exact thing I built the Woman’s Entrepreneurial Fellowship for is the exact thing I’m rejecting.

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Taking time for yourself, to truly go off grid, to rest, recover, and just not be your business is not selfish; it’s the most important thing you can do for your business and your own survival.

Putting this here as a reminder to myself that I am an idiot, and you need to practice what you preach.

We bought the cabin 10 years ago for this exact reason and the last three years I have been up there only a few times. The world isn’t gonna end if you don’t respond to that email, text or call.

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Rest is something I don’t allow, the guilt of not responding to that email, text, phone call, or not walking Frank, visiting Little Fox and God forbid reading a book that isn’t about business or taking time to relax on my patio…puts my nervous system in overdrive and I can’t shutdown.

My body said “hey asshole, the lack of sleep (2 hrs a night), diet of cheez-its or lack of, combined with perimenopause and constant stress means we’re shutting down your brain - say goodbye to problem-solving, forming sentences, regulating your emotions…you’re done.”

It isn’t lost on me that the exact thing I built the Woman’s Entrepreneurial Fellowship for is the exact thing I’m rejecting.

I know all of you picked up on this before me. You reached out, sent notes, prayed, offered help, gave advice and warned me what would happen. I tend to be a little dense and stubborn. Last week it hit me hard. Those damn business owners pick up on everything.

Taking time for yourself, to truly go off grid, to rest, recover, and just not be your business is not selfish; it’s the most important thing you can do for your business and your own survival.

Putting this here as a reminder to myself that I am an idiot, and you need to practice what you preach.

We bought the cabin 10 years ago for this exact reason and the last three years I have been up there only a few times. The world isn’t gonna end if you don’t respond to that email, text or call.

✌️ i’ll see you in a few, I’m going to my happy place.

If you don’t believe in yourself, then you’re not gonna get any further than you are. That voice in your head is a dick, stop listening to it.

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