STOP. I wrote Stop Apologizing in 2017, and if I’m being honest, it pisses me off that I’ve been saying the same thing for a decade. I’m nothing if not consistent. I’m still watching women make themselves smaller for others’ comfort. Apologizing for existing is costing all of us. It is long past time for […]
F*CK YOu MENOPAUSE. I apologize in advance. When you see me next, I’ll probably cry. Maybe you’re wearing a color I like, or you said “hi” in a really nice way; you probably just looked at me. To all of this I say: F*ck You perimenopause. This, coupled with my ADHD (emotional dysregulation, anyone?), has […]
2025 was a year of reckoning for me both personally and professionally. I got to experience the joy that is perimenopause, continue navigating my ADHD, and I got to witness women standing up to weaponized incompetence at home and systemic bias at work. My Top 5 from 2025 are the themes I couldn’t stop thinking […]
Amy Poehler’s podcast Good Hang makes me ridiculously happy. Go listen to every single episode. I’ll wait. In every episode, she talks about the Enneagram; there is always another reference to types and wings and integration paths. So I dropped $20 bucks and took the “official” test, and honestly, everything now makes sense. Type 8: […]
The New York Times published a piece asking if women ruined the workplace. In a time when misogyny, sexism, racism, and discrimination are running rampant because men have been in charge, that question is more than insulting—it’s delusional. The workplace was already broken long before women had the chance to step into it. Men built […]
8THIRTYFOUR is hosting the Community Capital Conversation on November 19th, because enough is enough. Bring your stories. This isn’t the story about the quarter of a million embezzlement that almost destroyed my business in 2023; it isn’t about who was responsible or about all the creative ways institutions failed to prevent, detect, or react to […]
She purchased it off of Amazon, in hopes he would finally “get” it, see she was drowning and step up. The Fair Play Deck is sold as a game, but it’s really meant to hit men over the head and drive home the point they don’t even do half of the emotional, physical and mental […]
“Bode, you seem angry. You should take a break.” I’m not angry, I’m f*cking nuclear. I’ve spent my career fighting for small businesses, standing up for vulnerable populations, and building a community where people look out for each other. Now, I spend my days talking with business owners who are shuttering their doors, laying off […]
For years, I saw my gender as a weakness. Working in manufacturing and medical devices industries dominated by men with egos the size of Texas—I did everything I could to blend in. I ignored or laughed at inappropriate jokes, went to the strip club (that’s a story I’ll tell over iced red wine), and pretended […]
Look, I travel a lot. Like, a LOT lot. And after years of trial and error (and some spectacularly bad packing decisions), I’ve got my travel game semi-down. Some of my most recent travels had me scratching my head at other travelers, so I turned to the women who know best: my friends. These women […]
